After witnessing 50 to 80 weddings per year (and being exposed to behaviors that a couple doesn’t always reveal to others), a wedding planner has identified some signs that scream “Red flag!” Here, she spills the predictors of whether a couple will live happily ever after or bite the dust.1. The Bride Refuses to Let the Groom Choose the Cake
“Brides are almost always more interested in the minutiae of wedding planning than grooms are. But when I encounter a woman who refuses to relinquish any control to her fiancé, it doesn’t bode well. I can think of a few instances in which the woman ruled the event with an iron fist and the couple ended up in divorce court a few years later. Basically, they weren’t able to make decisions together.”
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2. The Groom Lets His Mom Call the Shots
“Most of my brides involve their moms in the planning process, and why wouldn’t they? It’s like having a second planner for free. But sometimes, grooms’ mothers try to muscle in too, which is something I’ll never understand. Not only is it inappropriate, but it’s up to her son to tell her that.”
3. The Bride Blows Half the Budget on Her Dress
“Weddings are pricier than ever, and money-related issues can cause a lot of undue tension. So when a bride goes behind her groom’s back and splurges on a big-name dress or expensive flower arrangements, I start to get nervous. It’s a huge sign that she doesn’t respect him and refuses to compromise…and trust me, those tendencies don’t disappear after she walks down the aisle. I have worked with tons of couples who fought viciously over the wedding budget and learned later that many of them continued to argue and eventually split.”
4. The Bride Freaks Over the Groom’s Bachelor Party
“I’ve seen some women wig out about the possibility of her guy having a boys’ night at a strip club. One client of mine even threatened to leave her fiancé if he had a bachelor party. But my motto is: If you can’t trust him, why the hell are you walking down the aisle?!”
Wondering how wild typical prewedding bashes can get? Read Cosmo’s Confessions of a Bachelor Party Stripper.
5. The Bride and Groom Fight in Front of Me
“No matter how in love two people may be, planning a ceremony and reception is overwhelming and will no doubt cause a few tiffs. But warning bells immediately start ringing for me if the couple gets really heated with each other in my presence. Arguments are private, and dragging me into them shows that there is a lack of respect for each other and for their bond.”
My Thoughts…
Did this article hit home with anyone? It sure did with me? None of us are perfect, we don’t have perfect relationships either but if something in the article hit a nerve as it did with me, the GOOD NEWS is that it’s never too late for any of us to change. We all need a little self reflection and often times, brides are so wrapped up in planning a wedding, they forget about what matters…Your marriage, your relationship, your commitment and your love for one-another. Don’t ever forget what brought you 2 together in the first place. Sure, your wedding is the most important day of both your lives but in the end, make sure you never take your eye of the prize-each other! Go on! Attack him with kisses and hugs when he gets home and relax…
xoxo,
Jackie